#185 Helen Fisher: The Anthropology Of Romantic Love, Attraction, And Attachment
Dr. Helen Fisher is a biological anthropologist, and a Senior Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute, Indiana University. She has written six books on the evolution, biology, and psychology of human sexuality, monogamy, adultery and divorce, gender differences in the brain, the neural chemistry of romantic love and attachment, human biologically-based personality styles, why we fall in love with one person rather than another, hooking up, friends with benefits, living together and other current trends, and the future of relationships— what she calls: slow love. She’s the author of books like Why We Love: The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love, Why Him? Why Her?: How to Find and Keep Lasting Love, and Anatomy of Love: A Natural History of Mating, Marriage, and Why We Stray.
In this episode, we focus on romantic love. We start off by talking about its evolutionary and neurobiological bases. We also refer to sex differences and the extent to which they apply to romantic love. We go through the main symptoms of love that occur cross-culturally, as well as the hormones and neurotransmitters associated with it. Then, we discuss the several factors that go into who people fall in love with, including personality types. We also talk about the pattern of 3-4 years of romantic relationships in humans, and what’s being it, and if we can really talk about a preferred mating system in humans. We focus on the problems associated with polyamory relationships, and also on slow love as a possible preferred approach to relationships in the future.
Time Links:
The evolutionary origins of romantic love
Does romantic love work the same way for both men and women?
Different kinds of attachment
Symptoms of love across cultures
Hormones and neurotransmitters that go associated with love
Who do we fall in love with?
The personality types and the Big Five
The 3-4 year romantic relationship in humans
Is there a preferred mating system in humans (monogamy, polygyny, polyandry, polyamory)?
Jealousy, paternity uncertainty, and why polyamory might not go mainstream
Slow love as the future for human relationships
Follow Dr. Fisher’s work!
Follow Dr. Fisher’s work:
Website: http://www.helenfisher.com/
Articles: https://bit.ly/2GaRWsG
The Anatomy of Live website: https://theanatomyoflove.com/
Helen Fisher’s Personality Test: https://bit.ly/2pE7ONo
Amazon Page: https://amzn.to/2P7mazL
Books:
The Sex Contract: The Evolution of Human Behavior: https://amzn.to/2OWLLLm
The First Sex: The Natural Talents of Women and How They Are Changing the World: https://amzn.to/2G7qfj0
Why We Love: The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love: https://amzn.to/2UnMkE9
Why Him? Why Her?: Finding Real Love By Understanding Your Personality Type: https://amzn.to/2OYS29r
Anatomy of Love: A Natural History of Mating, Marriage, and Why We Stray: https://amzn.to/2U7YL1U